We're 5 weeks into life with two kids at home, and I thought I should write a bit about how it's going. For the most part, my fears of not being able to hack it have proven to be unfounded. Most days we all get along just fine, moving through our day just like Noelle and I did before Evan was with us. I actually find myself playing with Noelle more now than I did before, trying to involve her in all the things I have to do to care for Evan. Yesterday she was feeling a little clingy, and so when I had to change Evan's diaper while she was eating lunch I let her bring her plate into my bedroom so we could still be together. This made her VERY happy.
Evan really really likes being in his bed for naps, which I cannot complain about after all we went through when Noelle was small. However, it does make it a little more difficult that he isn't quite so portable. I usually end up having to get him out of bed to take Noelle to school and pick her up, and he's not a fan of that. As a rule he doesn't tend to fall asleep in the car, so if we want him to sleep in his seat while we are at church or Bible study, we have to rock the carseat. In his bed at home, he will often fall asleep on his own after being swaddled. I was amazed the first time I saw this. Babies can actually do that??
If I can time a feeding right before we go to bed, around 10, he will only wake up once around 3 and then not again until 6:30 or 7. Then he'll go back to sleep again while I eat breakfast and shower! It's an ideal schedule, which I know will probably change tomorrow, since that's what babies do. So I am getting a lot of sleep considering I have a 5 week old, and that makes a big difference in how well I can manage the two kids together. By the way, aren't they adorable?
People always ask me how Noelle is doing as a big sister, and I have to say she is great. She loves her baby brother. If he is crying in the other room she will say, "I'm coming Evan!" and run to his rescue. She sings to him when he is fussy, holds his hand while I change his diaper, and just generally does whatever she can to care for him. She is going through a bit of a rough patch behaviorally right now, but I really don't think it has much to do with Evan at all. She is almost 3 (wow!) and absolutely acts like it. Her friends the same age are going through the same things, so I am confident she'd be acting just as poorly without Evan to blame for it. Andy and I are working on a few things to try and help her through this stage with as little trauma to us all as possible. Our next step is a marble jar reward system, we'll see how it goes!
So, overall, life with two has been pretty good! We love our growing family, and feel confident now that it can handle a few more additions in the future. A friend said the other day that she wasn't sure she could handle the insanity of two vs. one, and I said honestly I don't feel any more insane than I did with just Noelle. She is currently the one giving me the most grief, after all. I know that Noelle and Evan (and their future siblings) will all take turns in that role. Along with their father. :) Being a stay at home mom is not exactly what I thought it would be, and some days I so wish I had a job I could leave the house for, but I really do love my kids and I am thankful that I have the opportunity to have this time with them. It can be a thankless job, but it's a job I am committed to, and the little moments like the one pictured above make it all worth it.